Anonymous asked: I think it's awesome that you are able to maintain a relationship and a career in pornography. Really, it must take a lot of trust between the two of you, so good on both of you!
Thank you for being well-intentioned, but this… is a kind of problematic message.
Because it shows the disturbing trend of the often-perpetuated idea that sex workers are untrustworthy. That we can’t maintain a relationship or that it requires EXTRA trust on the part of the sex worker’s partner in order for the relationship to work.
I don’t think we have any more trust in our relationship than any other healthy relationship (because the only healthy relationships that exist involve trust). The only difference is that we kick it up a notch and aren’t threatened by my clients.
I know a client won’t sweep me off my feet with gifts or large purchases. He knows that people can’t buy my love. That’s it. And to me that’s not trust per say. To me that’s just basic understanding of your partner’s mentality.
Some people can have their affection and love “bought.” Those are the relationships that will fail. And there’s nothing WRONG with that. Everyone’s emotions exist on a different plane and manifest differently within their relationship.
But there’s nothing extraordinary about a sex worker being able to maintain a relationship. Most sex workers I know/follow have a partner or have had a partner while being a sex worker.
So again, the level of trust in this relationship is no greater than any other healthy relationship I’ve had in the past. We know one another well enough to be secure in our relationship. We communicate. But again, these are hallmarks of healthy relationships in general, nothing extraordinary about us. I’m a sex worker with a boyfriend. Big whoop. So what? It’s a common thing (at least among online sex workers, I can’t speak for others).
This. Exactly. Well put.
Anonymous asked: I always wonder if you escort on your modeling trips? Do you?
Just because I get naked for a living … does not mean that I have sex for a living. They are two totally different things. Somehow….. society has somehow taught the world that nudity must always = sex. But it just doesn’t work like that…. The nude modeling doesn’t work like that….
Just like any other job - There is a reputation to uphold on both the model’s side and the photographer’s side of things - A level of professionalism (regardless to what kind of work is being shot) - Mixing business and pleasure is bad business.
But outside of that, though - Do you read this blog? You know that I am absolutely terrified of being touched by strangers, right? I wasn’t always like this - It happened over time and space - 10 years ago? I am sure that I would have made a great escort - Present times? Hell-fucking-NO - Not in a million years - I don’t care if it sounds crazy, I am absolutely terrified when someone taps me on the shoulder or touches my leg while making a point in conversation …. I almost jump out of my own skin …
I’m a nude model. Nude is the extent of my job.
Thank you London!! I get this question all the time. No escorting here! Not that I have a problem with those who do it. However, it’s not for me. I stick with naked modeling stuff.